"I shouldn't have said that." "Why did I say that?!" "Ugh! Why can't I keep my mouth shut?!"
Does that inner monologue sound familiar? Or at least sound close to an argument you've had with yourself?
So, you said something you regret?
First off, Big Whoop! Shake it off, girl!
You're only human and sometimes our emotions and mouth can get the best of us!
Give yourself some Grace!
You need to first understand that you are constantly becoming better!
So you slipped up briefly.... make a mental note of it and let's move on to give you some mindfulness tools to help you the next time that mouth of yours tries to outrun your brain.
Interacting with other people releases endorphins, and gives humans (most humans), overall, a different energy. Whether it's an excitement from talking to someone new or just comfort from being with someone familiar. These feeling and endorphins can cause us to lose our "mindfulness".
Mindfulness, not to be confused with focus, is a mental state that allows us to be completely aware of the present moment. When we are mindful, we are able to acknowledge our emotions and thoughts internally.
By developing a more mindful outlook, you can calm your mind and make better decisions or choices with your words and actions.
Now, how can we develop our mindfulness and think before we speak?
It just takes some practice. So, the next time your having a conversation with someone, try to ring your mind to a mindful state, and before you speak just remember to THINK.
T - Is What I'm About To Say TRUE?
Consider if the statement that is about to come out is a true statement.
H - Is It HELPFUL?
Will your words benefit the person you are speaking them to or yourself, and even further will it HURT another individual?
I - Is it INSPIRING?
Are these words powerful and truly worth saying? Or do these words fall flat?
N - Is It NECESSARY?
Do these words NEED to be said? Does a situations outcome depend on it? Does your conversations outcome depend on it?
K - Is It KIND?
Do these words reflect KINDNESS or, worse, do they reflect the opposite? Are they being said out of anger?
Use this practice of THINKing before you speak in your next conversation, and you will soon begin to do this naturally. And if your statement doesn't adhere to the THINK strategy, change it or just don't say it. A pause in a conversation is not a bad thing. Silence is not a bad thing. Filling a blank in a conversation with something negative doesn't contribute to or benefit the overall conversation or the relationship.
But remember, you are human...... If you slip up, just practice Grace, and know you will do better next time!
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